I can't stop worrying that I “haven’t done enough” for my pet during its last days.

I hear you.

In my work as an interspecies communicator talking to beloved animals once they have passed, one of the questions that is frequently asked is: “Is  there more that I could have done?” Loving pet owners wonder, even worry and spend sleepless nights agonising over if  they could have done anything else or “more” in order to make their animal friend’s  passing easier – or perhaps delay it, afford them more time with them and the family.

In this article I am going to cover:

• Why it is normal to feel this way

• Why there is no need to worry

• How you can slowly let go of your guilt

Firstly let me reassure you: Feeling  like and asking yourself these questions this is completely normal - for two reasons:

1.      Our conscious, human, logical mind is wired to “fix” things. We want to find solutions where there are perceived problems.

2.      Our subconscious mind (who by the way rules 90% of our actions) always wants to lead us from

“pain to pleasure” or from a “bad feeling to a better one”.

Therefore – in order to cope with your feelings of loss, sadness, guilt and so on – your conscious mind is looking for a “fix” – resulting in your looping thoughts of “should I have done this” or “could I have done that” or “what if…”. By doing this, subconsciously you are also seeking a better feeling by hoping to be forgiven.

Sadly this “better feeling” or the “solution” never arrives as we cannot turn the clock back and your beloved animal friend is gone – forever. Or so you may think at the moment.

However, THIS IS NOT SO. And those of you who have engaged me or any other animal/interspecies communicator – or those of you who already have a close, spiritual connection to your departed pet and/or consider yourselves a spiritual person – know or sense this: Your pet is still present and with you.

Read on because I am about to explain what pets in-spirit have to say to this. If you are suffering from having had to say Goodbye to your pet recently and are struggling with “I haven’t done enough” feelings – the following will bring relief.

First some insight on how animals experience the physical life.

Animals have life experiences, opinions and preferences – just like us. They live through the five senses and also the sixth sense (feelings) just like us. However – unlike us – they do not have ambitions, dreams or a vision for their life like us humans so. Granted, many animals (for example working dogs or performance horses) have “jobs” and enjoy what they do. They have a fuller life than their companions. In essence though all animals and pets live very much “in the moment” and experience life as it is NOW. The fact that they exist moment-by-moment also means that they much more readily ACCEPT and ALLOW what is happening to them. Regret, second-guessing, remorse, holding a grudge – all these feelings are alien to animals. Unfortunately they are what a lot of humans “specialise in.

For these reasons pets in-spirit NEVER wish for their passing to be different. It would have been the same for your animal friend if (s)he has recently crossed the rainbow bridge.

Animals accept “what is” and – what’s more – are keen readers of energy. If you have tried to make your pet’s passing as comfortable as possible – THAT intention would have been very soothing and comforting for your pet too. You have done enough. Your pet would far rather you were “at peace” with their transitioning than trying to prolong their life at all costs or hold on to them as long as you possibly can.

Whenever I communicate with pets in-spirit - whatever their owner’s feelings were thinking back at the circumstances of their passing – they always assure them that everything happened as it should have done. They NEVER suggest their owners should done xyz or chosen an alternative course of action. They are pure, positive love and energy and – once they are in the non-physical – only operate from this perspective. Having said that, they also do it whilst they are with us – much better than us humans!

Therefore, there is absolutely no need for you to agonise over whether you could have done more for your pet prior to / during their passing.

In conclusion:

Could you have “done more” for your pet when it looked like it was “their time”? Possibly. Every moment holds several choices. Is your pet blaming you for “not doing more”? Is your pet upset that you did not look him/her better? Absolutely not. Did you do what you thought was best for your beloved friend in the moment? I am certain you did. And THAT is the most important thing to remember. Why?

Because your pet – whether alive or in-spirit – always receives and recognises your energy behind what you are doing. The fact that you acted out of love for your pet in his/her final moments is all that counts. Yes of course, there may be a lesson for you to be learnt – perhaps you would act differently in similar circumstances if there was a next time; but your pet – given the present-moment-awareness beings they are – only recognises your loving intentions.

So next time your busy mind takes you back to the agonising question “did I do enough? Tell yourself: “I did. My pet loves me still and is always with me. All is well.” Instead of worrying and wondering, focus on your pet with love and gratitude. Spend a moment in silent companionship with your beloved animal friend. Sit at their memorial place if you have created one. Hold one of your keepsakes close to your heart – you can even imagine an imaginary love line (visualise it any way that feels comfortable) extending from your heart to theirs. With practice, you may even be able to receive an impression or message from your pet. You will find it is always full to the brim with love.

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closure after having to say Goodbye to your beloved animal friend.